How to get out of your comfort zone (and why its good for you)
How to get out of your comfort zone
You’ve seen the cheesy comfort zone quotes encouraging you to get out and do something strange or scary, and what lies beyond when you do so – but getting out of your comfort zone can be scary and hard.
But there’s actually a lot of science that explains why it’s so hard to break out of, why it’s so good for you to do it, and what can make it all a lot easier. I’ll be listing those here, and if you haven’t already, take a look at my video above to see first hand how I do it, what helps me, and the immediate benefits.
So what exactly is a ‘comfort zone’?
The comfort zone is a ‘’behavioural space where your activities and and behaviours fit a routine and pattern that minimises stress and risk. It provides a state of mental security and you benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress” (Lifehacker)
Sounds good doesn’t it?
So why would you leave your comfort zone?
When we step outside of our comfort zone we’re taking a risk and opening ourselves up to the unknown and all of the stress and anxiety that entails. But although stress and anxiety have become dirty words, psychologists view a little stress and anxiety as a good thing and it’s even known as ‘optimal anxiety’.
Stepping out of your comfort zone into a new and challenging task helps create the conditions for increased productivity and performance.
Think about it…
Did you ever do something you were proud of when you were on autopilot?
Why is it so hard to step out of?
We are creatures of comfort. Our comfort zone is our natural state, a place with minimal stress and anxiety, where we know what’s happening next. You can see why it’s so hard to trick your brain to get out of there.
But It’s neither good or bad and is a good place to return to, to give yourself the head space to recover and process the benefits when we do leave it. So there’s nothing intrinsicely wrong with being there, unless you get more and more comfortable, and start holding yourself back from learning, developing, growing, and trying new things.
The benefits of stepping out
You will grow and your life will expand
Come on – I had to get one cheesy comfort zone quote in here. But I do think this is so true, and the main pay-off for all of that anxiety, stress and fear.
As children we’re natural risk-takers. But as we get older we learn to fear failure and start holding ourselves back from attempting new things. So unless you get out of your comfort zone, as you get older your personality will narrow and you won’t explore or experiment.
There is no learning without discomfort, difficulty and stumbling. If you want to keep on learning and expanding your horizons you need to keep on risking failure.
You’ll be more productive and perform at your peak
Without the sense of unease and discomfort of stepping out of our comfort zones, we tend to do the minimum to get by and lose the drive to go that extra mile and learn new things. How can we expect to evolve in our careers and lives if we stick to the same old habits and routines? Stepping out can help you get there faster, achieve more, learn new ways of doing things, and increase and expand what is actually possible for you to achieve.
You’ll become more resilient and creative
By taking risks in a controlled manageable way you learn to respond to other life changes and circumstances that can force you out of it – you become more resilient to the ups and downs of life.
You’ll develop “Openness to experience” – one of what’s known in psychology as the “Big Five” personality traits. It means you’ll increase your intellectual curiosity, imagination, emotional and fantasy interests and a drive to explore your inner and outer lives. “Openness to experience” has been shown to be the best predictor of creative achievement in life.
How to step out of your comfort zone
It’s great stepping out, but don’t go too far and overstretch yourself. Everyone’s comfort zone is different – you’ll see from my video that I like to stretch myself pretty far, but this may not be for you. “Optimal anxiety” is great, but be careful not to put too much stress on yourself….
- Focus on the benefits of what you’re about to do – for me, conquering my fear of going into the cold British sea meant I could share something with my partner, I would experience something completely new and thereby honouring my value of Learning Growth & Discovery (when we hour our values we instantly feel happier and more fulfilled), plus I know the pay-off of conquering a fear – joy, self-achievement, the feeling that anything is possible.
- Take it one step at a time you get the same benefits whether you take a big leap or a series of smaller steps. Some people get a thrill out of the big leap (like me), but for many the thought of that can be paralyzing, and taking smaller steps means it will actually happen.
- Make the decision and commit there comes a time where you just have to do this thing – and stick by it. Set the goal – the time / date, and write it down. Be accountable. Share it with friends or someone close if that helps, or for some – posting it on social media means there really is no turning back.
- Ask for help None of us is an island. We don’t have to do this all on our own – whatever we have been brought up to believe – asking for help is not weak – it is a sign of courage (it’s actually an essential skill I was taught on a year-long Leadership programme). So seek advice from someone who has been there and done it, lean in to someone who regularly steps out of theirs, or like I did, ask for a helping hand to take you over that edge.
- Acknowledge and celebrate when you step out of your comfort zone you are literally going against your brain and body (that both want to stay comfortable – remember ‘homeostasis’?) so this is no mean feat, and you are a brave soul to do this. How will you celebrate? What is one thing you can say to yourself – are you courageous, tenacious, strong?
And remember to reflect & recover – you don’t have to be constantly stepping out. It’s just as important to reflect on what you have learnt form the experience, and get used to your ‘new normal’. It’s important to return to a comfortable state sometimes – just to rest – and enjoy the fruits of your labour.
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